The Meaning Behind Dreaming About Someone
Linda Collins - August 26, 2020
Almost every night, when we fall asleep, we dream. Sometimes we don’t remember a thing, or maybe only bits and pieces. Other times, they make us mad at our significant other for something they did in our dream and not in reality. Speaking of significant others, what does it mean when you dream about someone? People have been wondering about dreams for centuries. Trying to figure out what they mean, if they have a message, or if they just don’t mean anything at all. People in our dreams are a very common occurrence. When you consider that most of us talk to other humans every day of our lives, it’s not surprising that people would make an appearance in our dreams.
In the present time, people from all walks of life are still trying to find the meaning of our dreams. It’s very prevalent in mental health research and therapy. It’s also extremely beneficial for people that have trouble sleeping, have recurring dreams, or dreams that bring on PTSD.
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What Are Dreams?
Dreams are hard to define, but let’s start with the scientific definition. According to WebMD*, Dreams are basically stories and images that our mind creates while we sleep. They can be vivid. They can make you feel happy, sad, or scared. And they may seem confusing or perfectly rational. Dreams can happen at any time during sleep. But you have your most vivid dreams during a phase called REM (rapid eye movement) sleep, when your brain is most active. Some experts say we dream at least four to six times a night.
That being said, there is still no scientific explanation for WHY we have dreams and what purpose they serve, but there are some theories:
- Dreams Provide Unconscious Expression
- Dreams Are Your True Wants in Life
- Dreams Are A Way of Mental Processing
- Dreams Can Help Sort Your Memories
- Dreams Are Your Life in Pictures
- Dreams Help Process Emotions
What’s the Reason Behind Dreaming About Someone Specific?
Usually the people that appear in our dreams are *surprise* people that we know in real life. When you have these dreams and you wake up, you immediately want to know why that person was in your head in the first place, and if it means anything. This is especially true when the dream is about something bad, like an ex, or losing a loved one. Since you have encountered a number of people in your life, it’s hard to narrow it down to just one idea. Let’s explore what it can mean when you dream about these certain people:
Dreaming About Someone You Used to Date
Even if you haven’t contacted them in years, that person is still in your mind. They don’t necessarily mean you want to get back together with them, but can be your way of addressing the relationship, and what you learned from it.
Dreaming About Someone Dying
If you have ever experienced this type of dream, you know that horrible feeling in the pit of your stomach upon waking up. There are various theories that people dream about death, but these two stuck out the most: You are entering or starting a new chapter in your life, OR you are getting rid of something in your life.
Dreaming About Someone You Are Dating/Married
Most of the time, the people that appear in our dreams can represent what we’re feeling towards that person.
Dreaming About Someone You Have A Crush On
When you are crushing on someone, they are on your mind ALL.THE.TIME. These types of dreams are fulfillment dreams, where your brain is telling you something that you genuinely want and desire.
Dreaming About Someone Famous
If you spend a lot of your mental energy focusing on a celebrity, it’s common for them to show up in your dreams. Unfortunately, these dreams don’t mean that you’re going to get married to Brad Pitt and live happily ever after. They just mean you’ve spent a lot of time thinking about that celebrity.
Can You Control Your Dreams?
The short answer is, yes, you can. However, it does get a bit complicated. This practice is called lucid dreaming, which is the idea that you are AWARE that you are dreaming while you’re asleep. Many of us have experienced lucid dreams randomly, only because our mind is alert at that time. Some can train themselves to lucid dream, using them to control their emotions or their mindset.
Useful Practices for Dreams
If you want to look deeper into your dreams, start by keeping a dream journal. When you wake up from the dream, write what it was about in detail, and how it made you feel. This practice helps you to understand your dreams, which can lead to lucid dreaming.
Another thing about the journal is that you have a track record of what you’ve been dreaming about. In a few weeks or months, look back on it and see if you can find any hidden meaning.
Sleep tight, and sweet dreams. <3